However, the difference with Valentine's Day is that love, attention and desire are free. Sort of. Some guys directly relate the holiday with spending lots of money on an extraordinary gift or romantic interlude. While many people believe that going all out on Valentines Day is a measure of affection, the response to gifts with thoughtfulness, consideration, and emotion behind them can have a much greater effect on your Valentine than expensive ones. Especially since nowadays life and schedules can take away time for romance in a relationship.
So here are some ideas to heat up the mood this February 14th and make it a day to remember.
6 Hot Ideas for Valentines Day
- Flirt- Often in longer relationships, especially ones with kids, the fun and flirty behavior that attracted you to one another can dwindle away into a kiss or day, or less. Everyone likes to be made to feel desired, attractive and sexy. Flirtation is a behavior characteristic of the earlier stages of a relationship.Women and men alike flirt with members of the other sex, more often innocently than not. Usually, people flirt more with people they don't know as well because there is more mystery to be revealed by flirting. Anticipation created by flirting can drive a persons hormones and desires through the roof. So, hold your lovers' hand. Guide her through a doorway by gently touching the small of her back. Make a comment about her apperance that you wouldn't say in front of your mother. Look into her eyes while you talk to her, or whisper something in her ear. Whistle at her if she drops something, and bends over to pick it up. And get caught looking when does. Do all the things you would do if you didn't already know she was coming home with you. Bringing back the flirting and anticipation can revive that early relationship passion that is often craved by the lady in a relationship
- Public Display of Affection- Good old PDA is a great way to tell the world that you are in love, and you don't care what it has to say about it. A passionate kiss in a restuarant that doesn't make the table next to leave is a good example. Holding hands while shopping together is another. If it does not offend, and won't be frowned upon by bystanders, a pinch or pat on the behind tells her that you just can't wait to touch her. Just be careful that you don't do something to get you banned from a restuarant. But if neither of you embarass easily, getting some giggles and whispers is exactly what you're going for.
- Decorate the bedroom- Candles and incense can increase the ambiance of the bedroom at home. Low light and music sets a mood for love that only the blind and deaf can resist. Get the laundry picked up off the floor and replace it with rose petals. Unplug the lamp and get some scented candles to light up your room. Turn on the Barry White(or Prince, Seal, whatever turns her on) and turn it up. That may not be decor, but surely will not hurt the desired effect of the room.
- Surprise in the shower-Careful here: Start simple. Do not overstep privacy boundries(unless you are sure there will be no hostility) and barge in to join them. Ask for a kiss while your mate is in the shower. A simple excuse to get you invited into the bathroom may wind up getting you an invitation into the shower. Even if you only come for a kiss and leave, they will be thinking about it for the rest of the shower, and when they see you after they get out.
- Private Gifts- I'm trying to keep this article PG, so I'll keep it simple. Gifts that you wear, gifts that you see, gifts that you use. Any gift that you have to describe in front of company as a secret, or a gift that "You can't have now, but I'll show you later tonight." The anticipation caused by these "secret" gifts will have them thinking all day about what they're getting later.
- Massage-This one works year round, not just on Valentines Day. Giving a sensual massage is a sure way to get the heat going on a cold February night. Or a Warm July night, or in the middle of the day for that matter, no bad time for one of these. Using massage oils and lotion can enhance the experience further.
The point here is to focus on the person instead of the gift. This can easily be achieved by a few simple, yet out of the ordinary ideas that are sure to get your Valentine weak in the knees and make them feel more desired and flattered than a rose, chocolate and dinner. Putting a sexy or surprise twist on the gift or date will definately get her in the "Valentines Spirit" and make her willing to return the feeling of love and desire.
